The Long Doldrums

So it’s been two weeks.

So far… well, my wife is still deaf. Still more deaf than she started out. Only now she finds that everyone is talking way too loud while she can’t hear them.

An of course, having a new cyborg implant means that everyone wants to know how it’s going. Everyone. It’s the 300 pound gorilla of every conversation. I mean, how do you not ask “how’s the being a cyborg coming?” But the development is so slow that you might as well be asking “So, how much closer are we to the heat death of the universe?”

Everyone asking doesn’t make it less stressful that progress is so slow. She’s doing her rehab, about as much as she can stand. But this is something that will only get so much better so much faster. Worrying about it just generates more stress.

To make matters worse, the implant messed up my wife’s balance. More than she thought. So the first time she tried to go for a walk, she sprained her ankle. Which makes it hard to get exercise, which is a really handy thing for stress relief. Like relieving the stress of having people ask you every day if you’re any nearer the heat death of the universe.

For my part, I’ve spent a whole lot of time keeping all the normal life things going while she’s been recovering. Which had the effect of messing up all my stress-relief for quite some time. But on the plus side, I at least had useful things I could do.

Now there’s not a damn thing. Nothing to do but to sit by and watch my wife try and learn to hear again.

This bit. I don’t like this bit.


About tim

I'm a guy whose wife is going through the process of getting a cochlear implant and writing about it. Because why not?
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2 Responses to The Long Doldrums

  1. alihoop says:


  2. Katherine says:

    Still regenerating here as well, hang in there. My husband would definitely agree that he didn’t like this bit (last week I was getting over a bad cold and was very snappy due to the assault of the painful new sounds). Hopefully everyone else will quickly learn that this is a long, ongoing process. When I told people about the CI I tried to immediately dampen down any enthusiasm and say it would take up to two years — but not looking forward to the next time I go back to California to visit family and friends as some may be disappointed to not see immediate results! Slowly but surely…

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